Newish / Guidance :)

Hi, I’m newish to number 52, I have been 5 or 6 times now and it’s great to have a space like this. I’ve found the staff very friendly and welcoming and the other guys there very chilled out and it’s good that you can hang out in different areas. One thing I am struggling with though is how to shake someone off from wanting fun with you when you’re not interested without offending them. I’m quite a quiet person and I’ve seen many guys who I’ve been attracted to but I’ve played it cool and slowly gauged whether they find me attractive too and I’ve had some guys interested in me and I’ve been really happy that they’ve made the first move.

The last few times though, there have been a few guys each time who seem to have followed me around a bit despite me indicating that I’m not interested. I’ve gently moved one guy’s hand away from my leg and then after that his leg away from mine and he still kept following me and sitting really close to me everywhere I went even though I left each time straight away. The time before that another guy was doing more or less the same thing and then I told a guy who came up to kiss me that I was just chilling out and not interested, I actually quietly said that to him and I walked away but he followed me to the sauna and put his hand straight on my crotch area and as I tried to move it away he wouldn’t let me, he was pushing back against me until I said no and he stormed off.

This has not been my experience on the whole, it’s just been 5% of it, most of the guys there have been great and they know boundaries and how to approach someone but there are a few who don’t seem to get the message. I’m not one for kicking up a fuss but is there any advice on how I can get the message across to any future guys in a more assertive way without coming across as a prick. Thanks in advance.