Etiquette

Hi. I have a function to attend on the 2nd of sept, which means I’ll may have time to hopefully venture here sometime in the afternoon/evening.
However I’m no oil painting not hung 44yrs old and mainly sub/bottom, so I’m wondering is there any etiquette to follow and as grim as it sounds what if you can’t douche? I’m coming from a function so it won’t be possible. Is that an instant no no or are ppl able to get their heads around this?
Also is voyeurism frowned upon?
Tbh I’m happy just watching the action unless there’s a dirty old guy or panty wearer that’s happy to use me.