I was in the same boat as you, and still am, I’ve only been once. When you turn up, tell the staff it’s your first time, they offered me a little bit of guidance. Once I got in, I found a guy standing by himself beside the changing room, I mentioned it was my first time and he guided me around the place, showed me all the rooms and…what they’re used for…… After that, I went into the sauna and chatted with some dude in there until I felt more comfortable.
Don’t be pushy, as in, don’t jump into it, I read a few topics on here first to gain a little bit of insite and a few people mentioned they felt as some people were in a rush. Take it slow, you’ll see the signs when someone is interested in you, just..don’t be afraid to…hang out